Good morning friends. The following post I had written for Becca of Peace, Love & Bagel’s while she was off getting herself married and living happily ever after. It turns out enough people were showing support, she did not need it. I didn’t want the post to die, so here it is for all of you and please drop by her page and wish her all the best and congrats.
I admire each of my friends in different ways, and Becca is not exception. One of the things I most admire about her is the way she seems so comfortable with herself, so happy and at peace. In my day to day life I strive for the same sense and projection of peace, which made me think a quick guide to finding it would be an appropriate topic.
What is peace?
According to Dictionary.com:
peace [pees] noun, interjection, verb, peaced, peac·ing.
- the normal, nonwarring condition of a nation, group of nations, or the world.
- ( often initial capital letter ) an agreement or treaty between warring or antagonistic nations, groups, etc., to end hostilities and abstain from further fighting or antagonism: the Peace of Ryswick.
- a state of mutual harmony between people or groups, especially in personal relations: Try to live in peace with your neighbors.
- the normal freedom from civil commotion and violence of a community; public order and security: He was arrested for being drunk and disturbing the peace.
- cessation of or freedom from any strife or dissension.
According to Wikipedia:
Peace is a state of harmony characterized by the lack of violent conflict and the freedom from fear of violence. Commonly understood as the absence of hostility, peace also suggests the existence of healthy or newly healed interpersonal or international relationships, prosperity in matters of social or economic welfare, the establishment of equality, and a working political order that serves the true interests of all. In international relations, peacetime is not only the absence of war or violent conflict, but also the presence of positive and respectful cultural and economic relationships.
While these concepts are great if writing a paper, they are not quite the peace I am looking for when I wake each day. Here is what I believe is needed for a sense of personal peace.
P : P is for people, places or pets. While it can be funny for some to joke around about other people being stupid or silly, at the end of the day a life without interaction (for me) seems like a day wasted. I need a smiling or frowning face, I need someone with blood in their veins or the memory of a person who made a difference to help me feel connected to my world. This sense of connection and belonging grants me peace. Having a favorite place to go (perhaps a park or a lunch spot) reminds me there are ups and downs in life, but I need to remember the good and forget the bad because the roller-coaster keeps moving forward. When it comes to pets, I was given my cats at age 16 and 4 years ago my dog Emme entered my life. Her love and loyalty remind me not to be selfish, to reach out and care for others and to never take a nice day for granted.
E : E is for equality. Who is familiar with Martin Niemöller’s First they Came speech? Whenever I hear about something unfair happening to a person or group of people and my instinct is to think “at least it isn’t me” I try to remember his speech. On the other end of the spectrum I think we need to pick and choose our battles. I know a woman who gets enraged and passionate about anything and everything “unfair” to anyone. After a while it was hard to take her seriously because she was always on some new campaign for some new cause. Care about equality, care about your fellow man, but don’t make it seem more about the dog and pony show than it is about making a difference.
A : A is for apple. Or in a more general sense, it is for eating healthy and mindfully. High fat, high calorie foods may trigger our bodies reward system differently, but they also digest differently. All calories are not created equally and after too many trips to the drive through a person can and will feel off their game. Eating fresh(er) fruits, veggies, and whole grains whenever possible and as dietary needs allow will lead to a literal internal peace. Chances are if you’re not feeling bloated or cramped other life activities will begin to seem more fun.
C : C is for creativity. Creativity is not limited to artistic ability. Creativity is simply a way of saying “self expression”. Perhaps your passion and creative solutions are in the realm of mathematics? Maybe home organization or speech writing? I think everyone needs an outlet where they believe they have made a difference and have left a legacy. In my experience people want to believe they matter and they serve a purpose.
E : E is also for effort. Effort? Well, guess what, if you wanna see a change in your life, you have to be a change in your life. No one else is gonna live your life for you, so eventually it’s going to need a little effort. Sometimes it’s going to need a lot of effort. Maybe effort is finding a new job? A new house? A new dream? And maybe effort is learning to enjoy the environment you are currently in and taking a break from changes for a moment or two?
What are your tips and experiences with finding peace?